If you dare to love, you must also dare to break up.
On the path of growing up, we all learn how to love someone. But what if problems arise in the relationship? Do we bravely tell them we want to break up, or do we suppress our feelings and wait until we can’t wait any longer, only then do we see what we truly want…?
Most people have been told to be brave, to bravely pursue everything they want, including love; similarly, most people bravely love. But few people tell us that after gaining something, when we lose it, we should also bravely say goodbye, so most people suffer.
I remember having many friends like this. When pursuing love, they were brave and decisive, each story a poignant tale. Their unwavering courage in love was deeply moving, inspiring those around them to yearn for love as well. However, whenever their relationships broke down, they all became cowardly, doing many laughable and pathetic things.
They abandon all dignity just to beg for forgiveness, using every tear to plead for a shred of sympathy. They isolate themselves in a small space, weeping every day, even though they both know the feelings are gone, they stubbornly persist, refusing to say goodbye, even though they torment themselves and each other every day. But alas, most people are like this, preferring to suffer in love rather than wave goodbye properly.
Why do we all prefer to be awake and count our wounds rather than leave the beautiful memories intact in our dreams?
I’ve witnessed countless courageous confessions of love and heartfelt vows, and I’ve also seen far too many tears shed for love and unspeakable regrets. I’ve seen too many people bravely love, but I’ve rarely seen anyone brave enough to say goodbye.
Even in a breakup, it’s only after enduring immense suffering and pain, after all the happiness and beauty of the past have been shattered beyond recognition, that one finally embraces the broken pieces and harshly tells the other person, “Get out.” Why can’t we just bravely say goodbye? When love still retains its former form, we should say goodbye properly, so that at least everything in our memories remains beautiful.
Many people, after breaking up, either complain bitterly when they mention each other, or deceive themselves by saying, “Who is it? Do I know them? I don’t remember!” We always extinguish all the beautiful fantasies about love, and only after exhausting all our energy and emotions do we angrily say “break up.” In the end, we lose our innocence, our cuteness, and our expectations, leaving only a wronged self and a heart full of emotional scars. So what do you have left for the next person who truly loves you?
Your unique innocence and loveliness, the pure beauty of love—you must save your true love for someone else. If you squander everything in this failed relationship, what will you have left for the right person who will appear someday in the future? What about that right love?
Therefore, if you are brave enough to love, you must be brave enough to break up.
Love with courage, and break up decisively. Don’t let stubbornness deepen the pain. Leaving behind beautiful memories is always better than leaving resentment. Break up bravely. When you recognize reality and realize you can no longer go on, say goodbye properly, give each other a hug, and wave goodbye. Protect all the beautiful memories before they are damaged. That way, the memories will remain beautiful, and when you think back someday, you’ll still smile. When you meet again, you can still embrace openly.
At the right time, parting ways bravely protects both beautiful memories and the best version of yourself. A proper goodbye is always better than a bitter argument. Don’t let the failure of a relationship cause you to lose your innocence and beauty. If you lose your ability to believe in beauty in this doomed relationship, what will you have left for the right person? To love someone with an incomplete self and broken emotions is irresponsible to yourself; similarly, to be loved with broken emotions is irresponsible to others.
The unique beauty of innocence and purity should be reserved for the person who truly loves you, and also for that beautiful version of yourself.
At the right time, breaking up bravely is also a good quality—avoiding mutual torment and resentment. When a relationship becomes uncertain, two people should be brave together, protecting all the beautiful memories and preventing them from being harmed in the slightest. Isn’t that a kind of romance? Since it started, it should end gracefully, rather than going its separate ways with resentment.
So stop being stubborn and inflexible. If you’ve loved bravely, you must also be brave enough to break up. Sometimes, breaking up takes more courage than falling in love. Truly courageous people love when they should love and hate when they should hate. Breaking up is as brave and decisive as pursuing, without any hesitation. So, may you be that brave person! Love when you should love, hate when you should hate, love bravely, and bravely and decisively say “break up.”
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